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According to Proverbs 14: "A Wise Woman builds her house. But with her own hands, the foolish woman tears hers down." To be a Wise Woman, you must be (a) brave enough to learn the truth about the man you love, (b) confident enough to experiment with & apply what you learn to your own life, and (c) focused on soaking up & sharing the Goodness of God.

The Leading Man & His Princess Oct 17, 2021
I love, love, love watching these couples waltz! They provide the perfect picture of what it means to lead and what it means to follow.
  • The man is responsible for leading his lady around the dance floor, protecting her from running into another couple & providing a pleasurable experience...
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Practicing Healthy Vulnerability Oct 14, 2021

You know, we as women we need to be real, authentic, and vulnerable.  Not desperate and demanding.  There's a big difference, although both come from a place of vulnerability.

The first one comes from a place of,

“I’m okay with my growth process.  I’m okay with...

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How to build a healthy romantic attachment Aug 20, 2021

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. ~ Ephesians 5:31a

Parents are important. Without them we wouldn’t even be here. And without them, we wouldn’t know how to be in relationship with one another. Therein...

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Winners and Losers in Marriage Jul 26, 2021

Most every couple I’ve ever worked with have the same bottom line issue. They don't really think the other person cares for them that much.


They base that belief on their partner's external behavior that gets translated into their own internal experience.


However, external behavior can be...

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Changing what you already believe about men isn't easy Jul 20, 2021

No wonder women are confused. There is so much misinformation floating around about who men really are. Plus, what a woman already "knows" can get in the way of learning and applying what she really needs to know about the man she loves.

Wisdom is the ability to apply what you know to the...

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What you can do to change a man Jul 15, 2021

Today I posted a question in our Wise Women's Facebook group about whether or not you can change a man. More specifically I said, "What can you do to change a man?"

That implies there is a way to do that, right?

I actually wrote about it in my book. For those of you that have read Ephesians 5...

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Men don't notice a woman's hints, nor understand them Jul 13, 2021

In plain, simple language: “Guys don’t get hints.” Why not? Because they don’t even recognize them! Hints are clouded with Girl Code, which they can’t even begin to comprehend.

So why do women rely so heavily on hints when they clearly never work?

We hint that...

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Your willingness to follow makes all the difference Jul 08, 2021
Many of us can identify a multitude of ways to make sure our relationships don’t work.
 
However, we’re going to invest our energy on what actually does work. What works is very simple: being available and responsive to our partners “in the here-and-now,” and caring...
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He may need more than you can give Jul 07, 2021

Is the man you love “a diamond in the rough,” “a work in progress,” or “a piece of work”?

  • Does he shut down?
  • Get angry easily?
  • Disappear for hours at a time?
  • Do you feel like you need to fix him?
We don’t always notice at first.

But if we do see red...

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Why submission in marriage doesn't work Jul 06, 2021

Submission doesn’t work for today’s woman. Why?

Well, if we think of it only as catering to the husband’s wants and needs, it becomes emotional and psychological suicide.

However, true submission requires strength.

Inner strength.

Hers. And his.

If we translate the word...

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Why marriage is so hard Jul 04, 2021

We all know marriage is hard. But why is that? No two people agree 100% of the time. But many couples argue. Almost daily. Neither person feels like they are being heard. Other couples avoid conflict and lose connection in the process. So where do you begin when it seems you can’t win?

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Understanding emotionally unavailable men Jun 28, 2021
  • Does the man you love avoid talking about feelings – his & yours?
  • Does he shut down & stonewall when you get emotional?
  • Does he give you his “logical answer” when you want to process what’s really going on in the relationship?

If you’ve ever wondered why so...

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A Wise Woman builds her house.

But with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. PROVERBS 14:1