We all know marriage is hard. But why is that? No two people agree 100% of the time. But many couples argue. Almost daily. Neither person feels like they are being heard. Other couples avoid conflict and lose connection in the process. So where do you begin when it seems you can’t win?
Dr. Debi's Blog for Wise Women
According to Proverbs 14: "A Wise Woman builds her house. But with her own hands, the foolish woman tears hers down." To be a Wise Woman, you must be (a) brave enough to learn the truth about the man you love and (b) confident enough to apply what you learn to your own life.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. ~ Ephesians 5:31a
Parents are important. Without them we wouldn’t even be here. And without them, we wouldn’t know how to be in relationship with one another. Therein...
Most every couple I’ve ever worked with have the same bottom line issue. They don't really think the other person cares for them that much.
They base that belief on their partner's external behavior that gets translated into their own internal experience.
However, external behavior can be...
No wonder women are confused. There is so much misinformation floating around about who men really are. Plus, what a woman already "knows" can get in the way of learning and applying what she really needs to know about the man she loves.
Wisdom is the ability to apply what you know to the...
Today I posted a question in our Wise Women's Facebook group about whether or not you can change a man. More specifically I said, "What can you do to change a man?"
That implies there is a way to do that, right?
I actually wrote about it in my book. For those of you that have read Ephesians 5...
In plain, simple language: “Guys don’t get hints.” Why not? Because they don’t even recognize them! Hints are clouded with Girl Code, which they can’t even begin to comprehend.
So why do women rely so heavily on hints when they clearly never work?
We hint that...
Is the man you love “a diamond in the rough,” “a work in progress,” or “a piece of work”?
- Does he shut down?
- Get angry easily?
- Disappear for hours at a time?
- Do you feel like you need to fix him?
But if we do see red...
Submission doesn’t work for today’s woman. Why?
Well, if we think of it only as catering to the husband’s wants and needs, it becomes emotional and psychological suicide.
However, true submission requires strength.
Hers. And his.
If we translate the word...
- Does the man you love avoid talking about feelings – his & yours?
- Does he shut down & stonewall when you get emotional?
- Does he give you his “logical answer” when you want to process what’s really going on in the relationship?
If you’ve ever wondered why so...
Your husband is late again. He finally walks in the door. But he’s not really there. You’re trying to get dinner on. And the kids are fighting. Again. Your husband doesn’t even notice. Much less pitch in to help. What can you do?
So why do husbands hate coming home from work?...
Honest couple communication – especially between husband & wife – is essential for creating connection and lasting joy. But should you be able to say whatever you want to your mate?
I’ve always tried to be careful what I say to My Beloved. But many folks – mostly...
We've been lied to ...
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