Deep down, you know this is true.

You were born to be a hero.

You were also created to be loved—and honored.

As a man, you carry responsibility quietly.

You protect. You provide. You solve problems.

You stay steady when things are hard.

And you keep going—even when no one is cheering you on.

Your wife expects a great deal from you.
You notice her lack of appreciation—but you don’t point it out.
Instead, you remind yourself that you’re doing what a man is supposed to do.

That’s how you’re wired.

A hero doesn’t ask for applause.


You keep your head down and do what needs to be done.

Even when your own needs go unmet far too long.

Over time, though, something begins to wear thin.

Not because you’re weak.

But because you're human.
Even the strongest man has limits.

You were never meant to run on empty.

Yet you often do.

You give faithfully—to your family, your work, your community—while receiving very little emotional nourishment in return.

You’re respected for what you do, but rarely affirmed for who you are.

Even in faith communities, you often hear more about what you should be doing better than how deeply you are appreciated.

And while honor matters to everyone, it is especially meaningful to you, as a man who is carrying the load.

Here’s something few people understand.

Respect does not have to be earned—it is a gift.

Trust is another matter. You have to earn that.

You thrive when you are loved and honored as a man—

not only as the man you are now,

but for who you are becoming.

When love and honor are present consistently,
you don’t pull back—

you lean in.

You become more engaged, more alive.

The problem is, your wife doesn’t know what makes you feel loved and honored.

She only knows the feminine perspective and tries to love the way she wants to be loved—

unaware that men and women experience connection differently.

And if you’re like most men?

You don’t know how to explain what you need—
and would never ask even if you could put words to it.

So you stay silent.

You stay strong.

You stay hungry.

As a result, you’re emotionally starving—quietly, invisibly.

And the cost of your silence is high.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

When your wife understands how your heart works—

when she learns how to speak love and honor in ways that truly land—

you stand taller, your life becomes a true labor of love—and you can change the world.

Your life matters. 

That’s why my work matters.

Today—and every day—I recognize the strength you carry,

the sacrifices you make,
and the indispensable role you play

as a husband, a father, a colleague, and a friend.

You were born to be a hero.

And a hero deserves to be honored.

You don’t need to change anything yet.

The next step is simply understanding—
why she feels so much, what she wants from you, and how you can regain her trust.