When a woman does something that a man doesn’t understand, he gives up. So give some thought to these thoughts. Then think about how you might use some of my words to help you clarify what you’re all about. Believe it or not, most men don’t realize what I’m about to tell you about how we women operate.

If you’d like, you can download A Quick Start Guide to Understanding Women. It’s is everything a man needs to know about the woman he loves on one page.

Yes, she’s really that simple to understand.

I tried to make these free guides as succinct as possible, of course. But there are so many ways to talk about our gender differences. So, I’m going to give you a few additional bullet points to consider here.

When a woman does something that a man doesn’t understand, he gives up. So give some thought to these thoughts. Then think about how you might use some of my words to help you clarify what you’re all about. Believe it or not, most men don’t realize what I’m about to tell you about how we women operate.

First, a wife loves being the center of her husband’s attention.

She wants to be his number one priority. She doesn’t want to run his life or ruin his life. She just wants to know that he considers her thoughts, feelings, and desires in everything he does.

He should never ask for her permission to do something. Instead, he needs to ask for her input. He’s not a little boy, and she’s not his mother. They are two adults, husband and wife.

Second, while we’re on the subject.

She may not admit it, but she wishes he would take the lead more often. That he would be her knight in shining armor. But she definitely doesn’t want him to run over her in the process.

She needs to know where he’s headed.

• Because she sees things from a different perspective, she can help him see and do more than he could alone. She can protect him from blind spots because she looks at life from a different angle.
• It’s her job to give him feedback. He doesn’t have to do whatever she says, but he does need to consider her input. In fact, he should thank her for her input.
• Then give serious consideration to what she says. Then he needs to get back to her.
• If he leaves her hanging, she will repeat herself over and over. He won’t enjoy that. And neither will she.

Third, she longs for his compassion and the comfort of being in his arms.

Detecting danger is your wife’s superpower. Her tendency toward neuroticism (worry) is in her DNA. The good news? So is her tendency toward agreeableness. (Big 5 Personality Traits). You can help alleviate her anxiety by listening, but also more effectively and efficiently by holding her. The difference between a hug and being held is a matter of seconds. A hug lasts 2-3 seconds. Holding takes 7-10 seconds. She needs to be held every day. And it only takes 10 seconds.

Finally, she wants to be adored.

To be valued. To be loved. And she wants connection.

A woman uses words to create connection. The more words, the deeper the connection. But it usually doesn’t work that way when she talks with her husband. She’s still learning how to speak his language.