The Psychology of Men, Women, and Marriage

Where can you begin ... even when it seems you can't win?

What does it take to make a "good enough" marriage great ... or an "already great" marriage better than ever? 

Men and women ... both ... desperately need a practical approach to Romance ... based in Real Life Research!

I've never understood why they don't teach this in school. Absolutely no one taught me about men and marriage. My dad wasn’t around when I was growing up, and my mom was thoroughly confused about men. So neither of them were of help to me.

I married at 18 with stars in my eyes.

I’d been to the library and read enough books about marriage to choke a horse. But none of them talked about how men and women are designed to work together. No one told me what my husband thought, how he felt, or why he did the things he did.

No one taught my husband about what I needed.

Heck, I didn’t even know that myself! My church never taught me anything about love and marriage either. Instead, marriage seemed to be something mystical that everyone knew about except me. Based on my religious upbringing, I concluded that if I just never needed anything and served my husband instead of myself, it would all be perfect.

After my first marriage ended, I went to college.

They didn’t teach me anything distinctive about men or about women either, much less what made a healthy marriage. Grad school in clinical psychology did a little better on the topic of marriage. We could take a course in how to do couples therapy, and I did.

All these years later, it still seems odd to me – really, really odd
– that no one teaches anything useful about gender differences.

• Why would they ignore such an important subject?
  After all, marriage is comprised of a man and a woman.
• Shouldn’t we know about the components?
  Yes, the whole is more than the sum of its parts.
  But does that mean we ignore the parts altogether?

However, the process of raising three sons as a single mom made me curious.

Yes, by the time I finally made it to college, I’d collected enough evidence against men to build a solid case against them. But my curiosity about how to raise boys made me curiouser and curiouser about men in general and why they are the way they are.

And what I discovered set the course for the remainder of my career and my life.

• I kept studying men. Academically and clinically and personally. (Yes, I fell in love again.)
• As a Psychologist, my speciality was Couple's Therapy. And got curious about women. 
  What do we need and want, and why do so many of us never get to live our dream?

So here I am to teach everything I learned
as a former Couple's Counselor and University Professor. 

Yes, that's a lot of info! But I promise to keep it super simple. Because now is better than never ... to have an honest discussion about the Realities of Romance ... and to have access to a practical, Comprehensive Guide that explores both sides of the equation. Of course, it’s not politically correct in today’s culture to say that men and women are fundamentally different, but that doesn’t make it any less true.

Just ask any man or woman who is ... or ever has been ... in a romantic relationship!